Parenting Approach based on Al-Imran 159
📌 Parents and guardians must adopt a gentle approach when advising children and teenagers, referencing the Quranic guidance in Ali 'Imran 159.
🚫 Being harsh or hard-hearted will cause children to move away from you, potentially leading to serious issues like drug use or LGBT involvement later on.
🤲 Seek Allah's help by praying for gentleness, forgiveness for your children, and engage in consultation (musyawarah) with them in matters.
🎮 When talking to children, especially young boys (who are often right-brained and enjoy playing), inquire about their games and interests before addressing serious matters like homework or chores.

Communication Strategies for Different Personalities
🗣️ When communicating important matters or setting new rules, first pray for gentleness and forgiveness for the child by name, then initiate the conversation.
👧 For introverted girls, it is crucial to look them in the eye when they speak, even if they only speak briefly once a week, to build trust and connection.
👂 Introverted children need to see that the parent is truly dedicating time and attention; if the child is quiet, the parent should also remain patient and quiet, rather than assuming they can be ignored.
🏃‍♂️ Extroverted children communicate easily and openly; if they call something funny, acknowledge it, as their threshold for finding things amusing might differ from the parent's.

Key Points & Insights
➡️ The core guidance is to be weak and gentle (lemah-lembut), as taught in Ali 'Imran 159, because harshness drives children away.
➡️ Parents should forgive their children and ask for Allah's forgiveness on their behalf before proceeding to discussion or advice.
➡️ Physical punishment is generally not appropriate for children who have not reached puberty (baligh); for instance, a five-year-old who pinches should be managed through communication, not yelling.
➡️ Parents should not assume their child's silence means compliance; introverted children need time to trust that their parents have genuinely set aside time for them.

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