Building True Confidence
📌 Confidence is an output, not an input; it is earned through action, not achieved through affirmations alone.
🚫 Affirmations written on mirrors, like "I am confident," were ineffective because they lacked corresponding action.
🤝 Confidence is built when you keep the promises you make to yourself, especially when motivation is low.

Action and Evidence
🧗‍♂️ The speaker moved across the country at 21 with no job or money, forcing action when facing overwhelming debt (rent of $1,400/month).
📚 Facing fear of sales/marketing, the speaker put in the work by reading five books on sales and working 4:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. shifts.
🧠 The brain gathers evidence from actions, which builds identity and confidence over time; success does not discriminate based on background.

The Role of Tracking and Small Steps
📊 Confidence is derived from data, not dopamine; tracking progress provides objective evidence to override negative emotional narratives.
📉 Progress is often not linear, but tracking reveals long-term positive trends that the emotional brain tends to overlook.
🌱 The fastest way to build confidence is through "tiny tweaks"—starting with steps so small they are almost impossible to fail.

Overcoming Fear and Discomfort
🏃‍♀️ Emotion follows motion; you must act first, and the feeling will follow, rather than waiting to feel ready.
🛑 Fear is normal and indicates the brain is working for survival; the key is to tolerate fear and discomfort rather than trying to eliminate them.
⏱️ When engaging in a feared activity (e.g., public speaking), the physiological effects of fear, like a high heart rate, subside within minutes if you do not run away from the situation.

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Behavior precedes belief: Behave your way into confidence by acting despite feeling scared.
➡️ Use tiny tweaks: Break down large goals into manageable steps, like having a friend make their bed and take a picture daily for the first week of a fitness program.
➡️ Take fear with you: Do not try to eliminate fear; instead, accept it as present but proceed with the action anyway ("put it all in my purse and take it with me").

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