Parenting Philosophy: Unconditional Love and Acceptance
📌 The concept of "unconditional love" in parenting is framed around the Indonesian proverb, "A mother's love is as long as the road" (Kasih ibu sepanjang jalan), emphasizing that the parenting journey (the road) requires constant maintenance and adaptation.
👩‍👧‍👦 The foundation of a child's character, problem-solving skills, and socialization is built upon the parenting style adopted by caregivers.
⚖️ Parents must understand that unlimited love is a goal, but humans have inherent limitations, requiring continuous effort to refill their emotional and mental "tanks."

Parental Mental Well-being and Self-Care
📌 Parental mental well-being is often overlooked but is the crucial first step toward effective parenting, especially when addressing challenging child behaviors like tantrums.
😟 Parents, particularly those with children with special needs (ABK), often default to high-demand/low-warmth or low-demand/low-warmth parenting styles due to fatigue, feelings of hopelessness regarding stagnation, and economic strain from therapy/education costs.
🎓 Empowerment through knowledge is vital; parents must continuously seek new information through seminars, podcasts, and journals to educate themselves on modern parenting techniques appropriate for the current generation.

Strategies for Sustaining Well-being
📌 Parents must learn to acknowledge and articulate negative emotions (e.g., exhaustion, wanting to quit) rather than suppressing them to move to the next step of reflection and processing.
🔍 After acknowledging emotions, parents should reflect on triggers—identifying when negative emotions frequently arise (e.g., hunger, sleep deprivation, confronting judgmental social circles)—to mitigate them.
🧘‍♀️ Releasing negative emotions involves focusing on achievable progress rather than comparing the child’s development speed to siblings or peers ("the neighbor's greener grass").

Seeking and Providing Support
🤝 Connection with professionals (doctors, psychologists, therapists, teachers) is essential to create a unified view of the child's needs and progress across different environments.
📣 Open communication within the family is key; partners or close family members must be informed when a parent is experiencing parenting exhaustion or burnout.
🛠️ Support must be tangible and action-oriented (e.g., taking over childcare duties for "me-time," providing financial backup for therapy) rather than just expressions of sympathy ("I feel sorry for you").

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Prioritize self-care as the prerequisite for giving unconditional love; parents must ensure their emotional tank is full before attempting to support their child’s emotional needs.
➡️ Build consistent routines that incorporate appreciation (e.g., telling the child "You are great") as a daily habit to build positive long-term effects.
➡️ Never stop learning; parenting education is lifelong, as children are constantly evolving within new technological and social environments.

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