Neuroscience in Parenting and Child Development
📌 Character traits like disposition (watak) and innate talents (bakat) are considered basic programs inherent from birth, not solely determined by the environment.
🧠 The frontal part of the brain processes sensory input (sight, sound, smell, touch) and receives advice/rules, which are treated as "application programs."
💡 Understanding a child's basic brain programming allows parents to provide more effective guidance and treatment tailored to their innate makeup.

Memory, Emotion, and Negative Experiences
🔗 Brain connections (neurons) record memories based on experiences, using neurotransmitters as "glue," with intense emotions (positive or negative) creating the strongest bonds (like strong glue).
💔 Negative or extreme memories cause a "negative glue" neurotransmitter release, leading to lasting imprints that are hard to forget, even if the parent apologizes afterward.
✍️ Re-explaining and apologizing after a negative incident creates a new connection that assigns a new, positive meaning to the previously recorded negative memory, mitigating long-term emotional damage.

The Five Love Languages (Emotional Batteries)
🔋 Children under five require daily charging of five emotional batteries: Words of Affirmation (praise), Physical Touch (hugs), Acts of Service (caring for needs), Quality Time, and Gifts.
😥 Tantrums, selfishness, or aggression in toddlers (under five) often stem from one or more of these five batteries being depleted, sometimes for just a few weeks.
🎯 For children over five, identifying their primary "battery" (their strongest love language) allows parents to focus efforts, as charging the primary one helps fill the others.

Managing Parental Emotions and Conflict Resolution
🧘 Parents must manage their own emotions before addressing a child's behavior; techniques include changing position (standing to sitting to lying down) and deep breathing/Istighfar (seeking forgiveness).
🗣️ For boys, avoid correcting them in front of others, as their reptile brain triggers a fight-or-flight response; prioritize praising them first to recharge their "battery" before giving advice.
⏳ If a child is having a tantrum, allow a maximum of 15 minutes for them to release the emotion safely while ensuring their surroundings are hazard-free before attempting advice.

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Character is built by aligning parenting methods with innate brain programming (basic programs like gender, talent) and environmental input (application programs like rules).
➡️ Immediate apology and explanation after yelling or harshness stops the negative emotional "glue" release, though the memory connection remains, preventing resentment toward the parent.
➡️ For young children, consistently filling the five "love language batteries" daily is crucial to prevent behavioral "deviations" like tantrums or selfishness.
➡️ Adults who continually blame the oldest child for younger siblings' mistakes risk creating feelings of insecurity, which can contribute to later life risks like substance abuse as they seek comfort elsewhere.

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