#momscorner 82 Dena Haura & Hawariyyun | Awal Perkenalan Hingga Memutuskan Menikah Muda

Journey to Faith and Marriage
📌 Dena initially had no background in Islam but underwent a deep spiritual exploration that led her to discover Islam and find her life's purpose, ultimately leading to marriage.
💍 Dena married at age 21 and Hawa at 23 through Taaruf (a process of introduction with intention, focusing on goals over physical attraction).
🧭 The couple views marriage as a journey with a destination, emphasizing understanding roles and continuous self-improvement, rather than focusing solely on initial comfort.

The Taaruf Process and Objectivity
⚖️ Taaruf emphasizes objectivity to avoid time, emotion, and financial waste by aligning on the purpose of marriage first, comparing it to choosing a bus based on its destination, not its comfort.
📋 The process involved a "background check" where a mutual friend shared profiles, including goals and activities, without sharing photos initially, followed by Istikharah (prayer for guidance).
🗣️ Communication during Taaruf included discussions within a group setting (with a mentor/religious figure) covering essential topics, while sensitive personal matters were discussed privately, ensuring adherence to Sharia boundaries.

Navigating Marriage and Parenthood
😰 Both Dena and Hawa experienced insecurity before marriage; Dena worried about her knowledge gap compared to Hawa's religious background, while Hawa feared failing the sacred trust of the marriage covenant (Miitsakongholizha).
💡 Hawa, who studied marriage and parenting from middle school (SMP), believes preparation is key; he presented his future plans to his in-laws, demonstrating commitment beyond current assets.
🌟 Faith is the core strength; both emphasize that without a strong connection to God, they could not maintain their commitment, especially as humans are prone to betrayal and error.

Parenting Philosophy and Values
👨‍🏫 Hawa’s three goals for their son Zade are fostering love for Allah, love for Rasulullah, and love for the Qur'an, integrated into daily life (e.g., noting blessings from Allah during meals).
🏡 The home is the **first *madrasah* (school); Dena focuses on practical checklist items like daily manners (adab), proper prayer timing/doas, and incorporating history, geography, and self-defense.
🌱 For young children (under 10), the focus is on love and manners (adab)**; enforcing religious acts like Fajr prayer is done via invitation and warmth ("10,000 kisses session") to make it a desired invitation, not a forced obligation.

Maintaining Faith and Partnership
🤝 Istiqomah (steadfastness) is maintained through building supportive ecosystems/communities; Hawa actively chooses environments and friends who encourage religious commitment, acknowledging human weakness to environmental hacking.
🛑 Spousal disagreements should never happen in front of children to protect the leader's (husband's) authority/dignity, though private discussion to address issues is vital for a healthy relationship.
💖 The couple hopes their child inherits Iman (faith); Hawa emphasized mirroring the life of Prophet Muhammad as the ultimate role model for their household structure.

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Taaruf prioritizes shared life goals over initial emotional connection or physical traits, treating marriage as a purposeful journey towards a set destination.
➡️ Trust is given, not claimed; it is earned through consistent, honest behavior (reliable patterns), not demanded by position (husband/leader).
➡️ To raise religiously conscious children, focus on the "Why" (the purpose/comfort derived from faith) before enforcing the "What" and "How" (the actions/rituals).
➡️ Community shapes consistency; building an environment that supports religious practice is critical for personal steadfastness, especially for those whose backgrounds differ significantly.

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