Past Deception and Emotional Investment in Relationships
📌 The speaker admits to being extremely obsessed with marriage and prematurely over-investing emotions and time in seeking the "right guy."
✝️ Engaged in excessive spiritual practices like fasting and praying using the man's name, bordering on practices she labels as witchcraft due to her intense pursuit.
💔 Dated one individual for seven years under the deception that if that relationship failed, God would not provide anyone else.

Spiritual Misunderstanding and Community Importance
🤔 The primary deception stemmed from prioritizing heightened emotions over the desire for God's perfect will, leading to false certainty about a partner.
🗣️ Community support proved vital in challenging the speaker's self-created, mystical reality surrounding the long-term relationship, despite her initial resistance ("God can't lie to me").
⚠️ A crucial teaching was that a divine word or insight (Rhema) from God regarding direction is not static and can change, countering the belief that a past confirmation guarantees the future.

Healing and Repositioning Self-Worth
😥 After leaving the painful 7-year relationship, the speaker felt God had wasted 7 years of her life, highlighting the depth of the emotional investment and spiritual confusion.
🧘‍♀️ Healing involved redefining her position as a woman according to God, shifting focus from marriage to serving God and self-improvement, which subsequently raised her perceived value.
🔮 Experiencing spiritual discernment (seeing things about the brother's future) does not automatically mean the relationship is ordained by God; the spirit world can be accessed through various means.

Testing of Character and Discernment in Ministry
🧐 Even after focusing on self-healing, the speaker was tested by another "kingdom brother" who tried to initiate physical intimacy despite their shared spiritual context, revealing that position alone is not a guarantee of character.
🧭 The test served as an awakening to know who you are when no one is watching and highlighted the necessity of discernment, noting that being pursued or receiving a dream confirmation isn't sufficient reason to say yes.
💍 Her eventual meeting with her husband occurred after she organized a "Single Christians Dinner," where she was specifically instructed by the Lord to believe she would meet her husband there, overcoming her prior peace and disinterest in the pursuit.

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Beware of emotional height over divine will; desperation and heightened emotions are fertile ground for deception in relationships.
➡️ Just because you receive spiritual intelligence about a person (dreams, discernment) does not confirm they are *your* intended partner.
➡️ True value is established by positioning oneself in who God defines you to be, not by securing a marital status.
➡️ Community is essential to challenge distorted realities created by pain or emotional attachment when making major life decisions.

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