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The Friendship Recession and Health Impacts
📌 Loneliness is comparable to the health risk of smoking 15 cigarettes a day, according to some studies.
📉 Scholar Daniel Cox coined the term "friendship recession" to describe the increase in people lacking close friends to rely on during crises.
😟 Quantitative measurement of friendship quality and quantity is difficult, and people are often reluctant to admit loneliness due to stigma.
🏥 Lacking friends is associated with negative impacts on mental and physical health, potentially leading to sadness and isolation.
Changing Friendship Dynamics and Formation
💻 Friendships historically formed through proximity (school, neighborhood) or shared situations (work, activities), but online friendships (formed over the internet without physical meeting) are now a distinct category.
🧑🤝🧑 Historically, tribal friendship groups were around 12 to 15 people, with the ideal number of close friends often cited as three or four.
⚖️ Ancient philosophers like Aristotle viewed friendship as the ideal relationship because it is based on genuine equality and is non-transactional, lacking the "what's in this for me" exchange present in most other relationships.
Factors Contributing to Declining Friendships
🚗 Geographical mobility forces people to move away from established support networks for career opportunities, stretching existing friendships.
👨👩👧👦 Increased time dedicated to parenting and the emphasis on "workism" (where identity is tied closely to work) consume energy and time previously available for friendships.
💔 The breakdown of couples' relationships often results in the shattering of shared friendship groups.
The Gender Divide in Friendship Resilience
👩💼 Over 50% of women reported losing touch with some friends during the pandemic, suggesting female friendships rely more heavily on physical, face-to-face contact.
🧑💼 Male friendships are often more mediated through activities or technology, seemingly making them slightly less impacted by the lack of physical contact during lockdowns.
Actionable Strategies for Cultivating Friendships
🛠️ Friendship formation is not passive; it requires active effort, likened to a woodworking project that needs continuous work.
🗣️ A necessary step is admitting the desire to make friends, which requires vulnerability and revealing a need or desire.
😟 Older individuals may feel shame about admitting they need friends, making the statement "I need a friend" one of the hardest things to utter.
Key Points & Insights
➡️ The decline in traditional institutions (family, religion) increases the need for social relationships outside those structures, highlighting the importance of friends for human flourishing.
➡️ Young men show a significant decline in having close friends: 15% report having none today, up from just 3% in the 1990s (a fivefold increase).
➡️ When in trouble, only 22% of young men now say they would turn to a close friend, whereas 36% would turn to their parents, marking a radical transformation in their social networks.
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Why friendships are becoming rarer in America, explained by author Richard Reeves.
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Richard Reeves, a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, discusses the importance of friendships and the potential “friendship recession.” He notes that loneliness can be as harmful as smoking 15 cigarettes per day, but measuring and quantifying friendships is difficult. According to Reeves, an ideal number of close friends is around three or four.
But alarmingly, 15% of young men today report having no close friends, compared to 3% in the 1990s. The COVID pandemic has further tested friendship networks, with women being the most affected due to their friendships' reliance on physical contact. Other factors likely have contributed to the decline in friendships in the 21st-century U.S., including geographical mobility, parenting demands, workism, and relationship breakdowns.
Reeves emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and nurturing friendships as they don't form spontaneously. Admitting the desire for friends requires vulnerability and openness, which may be difficult for some individuals.
0:00 A friendship recession
1:20 4 friendship formations
1:54 How many friends do people need?
2:21 The ideal relationship
3:03 Why are we losing friends?
4:20 Friendship & your health
5:07 Male friendships
5:43 Female friendships
6:27 The dystopia we must avoid
7:20 The hardest thing to admit
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About Richard Reeves:
Richard V. Reeves is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families. His Brookings research focuses on the middle class, inequality and social mobility.
Richard writes for a wide range of publications, including the New York Times, Guardian, National Affairs, The Atlantic, Democracy Journal, and Wall Street Journal. He is the author of Dream Hoarders (Brookings Institution Press, 2017), and John Stuart Mill – Victorian Firebrand (Atlantic Books, 2007), an intellectual biography of the British liberal philosopher and politician.
Dream Hoarders was named a Book of the Year by The Economist, a Political Book of the Year by The Observer, and was shortlisted for the Goddard Riverside Stephan Russo Book Prize for Social Justice. In September 2017, Politico magazine named Richard one of the top 50 thinkers in the U.S. for his work on class and inequality.
A Brit-American, Richard was director of strategy to the UK’s Deputy Prime Minister from 2010 to 2012. Other previous roles include director of Demos, the London-based political think-tank; social affairs editor of the Observer; principal policy advisor to the Minister for Welfare Reform, and research fellow at the Institute for Public Policy Research. Richard is also a former European Business Speaker of the Year and has a BA from Oxford University and a PhD from Warwick University.
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The Friendship Recession and Health Impacts
📌 Loneliness is comparable to the health risk of smoking 15 cigarettes a day, according to some studies.
📉 Scholar Daniel Cox coined the term "friendship recession" to describe the increase in people lacking close friends to rely on during crises.
😟 Quantitative measurement of friendship quality and quantity is difficult, and people are often reluctant to admit loneliness due to stigma.
🏥 Lacking friends is associated with negative impacts on mental and physical health, potentially leading to sadness and isolation.
Changing Friendship Dynamics and Formation
💻 Friendships historically formed through proximity (school, neighborhood) or shared situations (work, activities), but online friendships (formed over the internet without physical meeting) are now a distinct category.
🧑🤝🧑 Historically, tribal friendship groups were around 12 to 15 people, with the ideal number of close friends often cited as three or four.
⚖️ Ancient philosophers like Aristotle viewed friendship as the ideal relationship because it is based on genuine equality and is non-transactional, lacking the "what's in this for me" exchange present in most other relationships.
Factors Contributing to Declining Friendships
🚗 Geographical mobility forces people to move away from established support networks for career opportunities, stretching existing friendships.
👨👩👧👦 Increased time dedicated to parenting and the emphasis on "workism" (where identity is tied closely to work) consume energy and time previously available for friendships.
💔 The breakdown of couples' relationships often results in the shattering of shared friendship groups.
The Gender Divide in Friendship Resilience
👩💼 Over 50% of women reported losing touch with some friends during the pandemic, suggesting female friendships rely more heavily on physical, face-to-face contact.
🧑💼 Male friendships are often more mediated through activities or technology, seemingly making them slightly less impacted by the lack of physical contact during lockdowns.
Actionable Strategies for Cultivating Friendships
🛠️ Friendship formation is not passive; it requires active effort, likened to a woodworking project that needs continuous work.
🗣️ A necessary step is admitting the desire to make friends, which requires vulnerability and revealing a need or desire.
😟 Older individuals may feel shame about admitting they need friends, making the statement "I need a friend" one of the hardest things to utter.
Key Points & Insights
➡️ The decline in traditional institutions (family, religion) increases the need for social relationships outside those structures, highlighting the importance of friends for human flourishing.
➡️ Young men show a significant decline in having close friends: 15% report having none today, up from just 3% in the 1990s (a fivefold increase).
➡️ When in trouble, only 22% of young men now say they would turn to a close friend, whereas 36% would turn to their parents, marking a radical transformation in their social networks.
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