Finding Inner Confidence for Speaking
📌 Confidence does not exist externally; it resides within the visceral aspects of a person that are usually unseen.
😟 Many people experience anxiety or feel inadequate in public speaking moments, but the speaker assures that confidence is present within everyone.
🎙️ The speaker shared a negative personal experience—a failed early coaching presentation with a broken microphone—leading to a resolve to do things differently next time by looking within.

Lesson 1: Voice as an Instrument (The Power of Practice)
🎷 The voice is an amazing instrument consisting of a string (the larynx) and a hitter (the air).
🏋️‍♂️ Just like a saxophone player requires significant practice and work to achieve a great sound, vocal performance relies on diligent practice.
🏛️ The example of Demosthenes (the "Greek dude") illustrates this: after bombing initially, he practiced intensely (building a cellar, speaking over waves) until he became one of the greatest orators.
🎤 The most accessible practice method is singing daily—in the shower, car, or anywhere comfortable.

Lesson 2: Controlling the Unconscious System (The Diaphragm)
👑 The most powerful person in a room is identified by their relaxed breathing pattern; stillness conveys authority, like a King.
🧘‍♂️ Breath control is the key to accessing and calming the unconscious system; controlling your breathing can calm you down when conscious control is impossible.
🌬️ The diaphragm is the "king of confidence" and the center of all expression, crucial for regulating the system and projecting calm.
👂 Practice engaging the diaphragm by breathing in deeply to lift a weight (like a gym weight placed on the stomach or pushing a thumb outward) and breathing out to relax back.

Lesson 3: Breath is Thought (The Big Secret)
💔 A powerful story demonstrated that these skills—breathing low and slow for control and inner confidence—are vital when speaking during life's most difficult moments, such as delivering a eulogy.
💬 All speech and song are extensions of breath, and all in-breath is thought.
💡 The Latin roots of *inspiration* (in-breath) and *respiration* (out-breath) confirm that we breathe our thoughts.
🤫 The ultimate secret to confident speech is realizing that since we speak on the out-breath, we must control the in-breath; the simplest way to control the in-breath is to know when to shut your mouth (close your mouth).

Key Points & Insights
➡️ Practice singing daily (shower, car) to improve your voice, treating it like any other instrument requiring dedicated work.
➡️ To immediately project calm and authority, focus on being still and engaging your diaphragm to achieve a relaxed breathing pattern.
➡️ When preparing to speak, control your confidence by focusing on the in-breath (thought), as speech happens during the out-breath.
➡️ The most foundational insight is that controlling your in-breath, often achieved by simply closing your mouth, is the key to controlling your speech and confidence.

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